Hello everyone! Today I felt like talking about something that has always been an issue for me and has negatively affected my self-confidence for as long as I can remember.
And that is that I’m not the joking type.
Even as a kid, I had a hard time reacting to people who were always joking around and didn’t quite fit the serious person category. I remember that when new people came to visit I used to hide in a corner or in another room in fear of them trying to break the ice, so to speak, with a silly joke that I wouldn’t even understand.
It’s not that I wasn’t smart or couldn’t appreciate a good joke, it was something deeper.
Okay, now we all have some distinctive personality trait that annoys the hell out of us but we can’t escape from and that for me is being unable to fake amusement.
I always tend to be more serious than amusing, especially when I meet new people or if I don’t feel comfortable with someone’s personality.
More often than not, I have been characterised by people as “polite but too reserved” and that’s something that has made it difficult for me to feel confident among a happy-go-lucky group of people. I know deep inside that most of my highschool peers had the same impression of me and that I wasn’t really hanging out with most of them for that reason. Even if I don’t regret those past awkward interactions, I am aware that they have followed me into adulthood for a reason.
The reason being that I slowly realised:
If you’re not the joking type, that doesn’t mean that you are not sociable!
I’m telling you right now that this type of subconscious guilt can eat up your self-confidence!
Don’t avoid going out with large groups of people and being part of fun activities.
I’ll share with you some things that have helped me out with coming to terms that I’m not a social butterfly:
I’ve had great and deep conversations on this subject with other people that consider themselves introverts
Those conversations resulted in forming an instant connection as we felt more comfortable with each other.
We ended up having a blast, cracking jokes about all sorts of random things
I had the biggest smile on my face all night long after that!
We were able to hang out with the most hilarious group of friends without feeling left out or unwanted.
Another pet peeve of mine
I hate when people aren’t being forward – If I can’t tell the difference between your jokes and your semi-truthful statements, there’s nothing in it for me! I will try to find someone else to communicate with.
Someone that works around my kind of social frequency!
So don't fall for those mind games!
Being uncomfortable with being the joker or responding to people’s jokes at random times, doesn’t mean that you are boring, monotonus or wearisum to be around. The sooner you accept that the better for your self-confidence!
So, have you ever felt bad about not being the joking type? Comment below and tell me your thoughts!
Talk to you soon,